Thursday, June 23, 2005

In response to Anna's post about the neighbors...

Doesn't all this infertility secrecy, hurt and frustration (sometimes pain and grief too) make you realize how many people are going through bad things. Since my loss last year I now try to remember that around me are people who are hurting because they lost their father, or someone in their family is sick or things aren't going well in their life right now. There are some things that you can't say though you wish you could wear a badge sometimes and have people be nicer, more understanding.

Thanks for checking in on me.

1 comment:

Unknown said...

But Ann, wearing a badge would draw more uncomfortable silences, condolences, and well meaning (but hurtful) advice... no, I'll not wear a badge. If I could change one thing about infertility it would be that when asked about my fertility the inquirer would have more sensitivity without being shamed into it.

Lastnight I ate dinner with some collegues at work. While dining the discussion turned to children and family planning. I was not very participating save for a few comments about my "son" and when asked if I'd have another I was silently torn between lying and saying, "oh no, one's enough" or "yes, but most likely through adoption as I am not Andrew's natural mother and infertile..."

For the record... I lied.