To someone who is wondering whether or not to have a myo

Lots of women get pg with fibroids in place, it is an elective procedure however so in part you get to decide when it is right for you. Some considerations I've noted about when it is a good time to have fibroid surgery:

• you feel like you have exhausted all other possible treatment options
  
• you are feeling pain and discomfort, even some of the time. This can include back pain, pelvic pain, leg pain, etc.
  
• you are having bleeding problems (really heavy periods, or periods that don't seem to stop -- this can lead to problems with anemia which can impair fertility and put you at risk for other health problems such as clotting)
  
• you have had trouble conceiving or have had miscarriage/s
  
• you are wanting to try hormonal fertility treatments and your fibroids are already a good size
  
• you are having difficulty urinating or are having to pee all the time or you are developing urinary tract infections
  
• you can't stand the thought of having fibroids inside of you and want to get rid of them
  
• you fibroids are compromising the interior space of the uterus
  

Since you are already dealing with TTC with one tube I can see that it doesn't feel like a straight shot decision for you at all. There is a risk of adhesions after any abdominal surgery, but whether or not these will cause problems is another question.

The surgery is a big deal in that it can be quite invasive and most of us haven't had that much physical trauma before. It is also one that you will recover from quickly. An abdominal myo is very similar to a c-section and loads of women have those operations every day.

Have you read What Your Doctor May Not Tell You About Fibroids yet? It is a super book that really helped me to feel empowered about my body and my fibroids. It describes in detail about the various procedure options and includes info about fertility success rates post-op.